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Charles – the Husband With Monogamy Issues

When my husband Charles announced to me that he was in love with someone else, my world came crashing down upon me.

My eyes burned and filled up with tears and I remember I let out this unusual, painful cry. I felt like someone had just punched me in the throat and I actully felt like I was going to pass out. I remember collapsing into a heap on the floor right then and there. I would have much rather he had told me that he had been “fucking someone else” rather than, “I’m in love with someone else”.

I can’t tell you exactly what happened next except the next couple of months to a year were all a huge blur. I went into severe depression, I attempted suicide, spoke to “the other woman” and humiliated myself, begging her to leave my husband alone, I got arrested for assaulting Charles, spent the most humiliating 36 hours of my life in jail and was then put into a strict psychiatric program for 6 weeks. I was ruined, I was a mess, I was wreck and I almost lost custody of my son. All that I had gone through all of those years with Charles, I felt, were for nothing.

Broke and broken I lived in a fog for a very long time, struggling in every way imaginable. I lost my little family life, my home and my car. I remember the hatred I had for the woman my husband had left me for. In my eyes, she had broken some kind of woman’s “code” by sleeping with a married man and then not waiting for him to either work it out with his wife or to be divorced. I hated her for “backstabbing” me. I hated her for existing. She had been asked to step aside to let us work it out but refused and I vowed I would never trust another woman again.

Fortunately, for me, I didn’t have to keep that “vow”; after months of being pathetic, and seriously “fucked up”, I met a group of women. Not psychiatrists, therapists or anyone that could prescribe drugs, just normal women that became my peers to help through my hardships. Oh, it didn’t happen overnight. I fought, I kicked, I screamed and mistrusted but these women never abandoned me. They held me when I cried and helped me celebrate my successes.

These women supported me in my dreams and goals and held me accountable for my actions. I attended a women’s retreat where I learned to accept responsibility for the role I played in the end of my marriage and I learned valuable relationship tools including what made men tick.

Today, so many years after Charles made his announcement of being in love with another woman. I am no longer broke OR broken. I own my own house, new car, and business, I have a healthy, happy son and have now re-married. My new husband is a wonderful man that meets all of my relationship needs in every way and I couldn’t be the successful, happy woman that I am today if it wasn’t for his unwavering love and support for me. I made it through a divorce despite the fact that studies show divorce is often one of the most traumatic periods in a person’s life. It has also been stated that it is the second-most stressful event in life, after the death of a spouse and I made it through!

I’d have to write another entire book on the lessons I learned here but I’ll give you just a few: “What goes around comes around”. The man that left his first wife was also the same man that left his second wife, me. Ouch. Some could say, I got what I had coming to me and it was my entire fault because I flirted with a married man who then left his first wife for me. Others say, he never loved me or else he wouldn’t have wanted to be with another woman. But all I have to tell you is only what I’ve learned.

One of the main reasons married men sleep with other women is because other women keep sleeping with married men! While you are out on your safari, this should be your rule #1: NO MARRIED MEN. I don’t care if he tells you he has an open relationship or that his wife is cruel, heartless and that there is no sex or love anymore. Nothing is worth it, just please, don’t date married men! There are plenty of unmarried men out there, happy to be with you. Value yourself enough to not play second best. You deserve a man all to yourself and don’t need to put another woman through heartache or pain. Not to mention their children. Some consider the trauma a child suffers through divorce as a form of child abuse. If you get in the way before a man makes his final decision on divorce you could be responsible for the man’s children to suffer greatly through their parents divorce. The percentage of adults in therapy today who come from divorced parents is overwhelmingly greater than those who came from homes where their parents remained married. He may have eventually left me for another woman but I was not innocent either. After all of the suffering I went through, I finally was able to realize and accept the role I may have played in the end of Charles’ first marriage. I then made sure I phoned Charles’ first wife and apologized to her.

Again, I can’t entirely blame Charles for falling into the arms of another woman when he left me. I used to stroke his ego and made him feel like a King. Then I became a miserable, bitter person to be around. I didn’t make him feel attractive, important or special in anyway anymore. I became depressed, didn’t do anything around the house and when he asked me to get help for my depression. I just ignored him and blamed him. Then I became that cruel, cold bitch no one wanted to be around. I nagged at him all the time. Thus, the second lesson from this particular expedition would have to be that who you are in the beginning will determine who he will fall in love with.

This is why being yourself on those first dates is SO important. Always be honest with yourself and with the man you are with. The way a man feels about himself when he is with you is what indicates to him whether or not he is in love with you. When he is with you and he feels great about himself, he thinks he’s in love. So, remember that the woman you are when your man falls in love with you is the woman he is going to want to be married to…forever. While out on the dating scene be very conscious of this because who I was when Charles met me and how I made him feel back then was definitely not the same woman he eventually left.

Finally, I learned about trust. You either confide in another woman or you do it alone and you can not do it alone. I will keep telling you this. I know now, you can’t trust all women unfortunately. My friend and I basically begged my husband’s new woman to leave him alone and let him work out his marriage, but she never did. That’s ok though because like me, you too can find women that you can trust, talk to them and then, hold on to them. That’s what I did in the end.

I was overbearing and constantly whining to Charles. I eventually wore him down with my complaining about his son and his ex wife. Men cannot just be supportive and “just listen”. It is their instinct to try and solve our problems. Women however are natural nurturers and you can only benefit by sharing your feelings with a woman you trust. When Charles got fed up with my nagging and my depression, he proposed taking a lover, having an “open” marriage. I told him this was “ok” with me because I was in severe low self-esteem and depression and terrified of having my husband leaving me. I thought if I told Charles this, he would just think I was pathetic and leave for sure. Instead of going to another woman and telling her I felt inadequate and was scared of Charles’ leaving me, I kept me feelings and thoughts to myself and totally let things eat me up inside. I then got angry and became this cruel person I didn’t even know existed. I became full of anger, arrogance and bitterness. When I should have given my pain to another woman, I went and dated other men to boost my ego and not feel so inadequate instead.  I thought,

“ if Charles’ wants to take a lover, than I can too, I’ll show him!”

The only problem was Charles not only found a lover but he fell in love with her.

The best thing I learned from all of this is that the times when we feel hurt or broken are the best times to reach out to another woman and NOT a man. I made a stupid mistake and lost my husband because I didn’t share any of my feelings with anyone else. I became cruel to Charles, treated him like dirt, dated other men to boost my ego and then was actually surprised when he told me he was leaving? Stupid, silly girl. When you are going through a rough time, rather than filling your ego with men, fill your heart with women…

LESSON LEARNED: Enough said.

How To Optimize A Site Through White Hat SEO

In this age of computers, people are looking for information on the internet and they visit various websites where the particular piece of information they want is found. Hence, it is necessary for websites to generate as much traffic as possible to their websites. SEO or Search Engine Optimization is the process used to improve the volume and the quality of traffic to a website from search engines via natural search results which are either organic or algorithmic. If a site appears earlier in the search engine, it will have more traffic and more users. There are different types of searches like image search, vertical search or local search that is targeted by the SEO. SEO through internet marketing strategy finds out what people search for and how the search engines work.

The main thing to do to optimize traffic to a website would be to edit its contents and HTML coding, so that the relevance to specific key words is increased and the barriers to the indexing activities of search engines is removed. Many techniques are used by search engine optimizers to make a website search engine friendly. They use website designs, menus, content management systems and shopping carts to optimize easily.

SEO techniques can be broadly classified into two groups : the White Hat SEO and the Black Hat SEO. White Hat SEO uses techniques approved of by the search engines and Black Hat SEO uses techniques that are not approved by the search engines.

White Hat SEO adopt techniques that last for a long time and produce results slowly when compared to Black Hat SEO’s. The White Hat SEO also conforms to all the guidelines that are specified by the search engines and there is no question of deception Care is taken to see that the content indexed and ranked by the search engine is the same content that is seen by the user. According to White Hat SEO, the content is created for the user and not for the search engines. The content should be easily available to the spiders and it should trick the algorithm for the necessary purpose.

In White Hat SEO the content in the website is the only factor that increases traffic to a website. The contents should be fresh, interesting, informative and very attractive to the user. It tracks the users and keeps them prepared for any type of challenges.

A few of the techniques used by White Hat SEO’s are original and pertinent content, article content, director content, request site feedback, making back links, making business blogs, make site mappings, RSS feed etc.

The advantage of RSS feed is that the content of a site or weblog can be seen without going to the home page. The XML file format is used and works well for news sites.Forum posting is a good method of internet marketing followed by White Hat SEO. It follows a few guidelines and benefits from forum posting.

White Hat SEO is followed by websites which definitely want to be found by the user and do not believe only in generating traffic to the website. It provides sufficient information to the users. It has an attractive design and it is easy to navigate through it. It will also be linked to other quality websites. So, using White Hat SEO techniques, you can optimize a website. The growth will be slow, but you will definitely have a long lasting effect and the search engines will give you a high ranking.

While optimizing a site, a good article on a single term will be more profitable and will be less likely to be labeled a spam. The need is also to promote the site through proper links to generate traffic and get good rating.

The simplest and easiest way to promote an organization: Business Cards

Business cards are considered to be the first easiest step to promote a business organization, it is also considered to be the first and foremost representative of the organization, just because of the business card, client would come to know about the nature of the business, experience in the field, competency and many other things.

Business cards are supposed to be the reflection of the business, it gives a lasting impression on the client and one should not forget that first impression is the last impression. Business cards should be simple yet attractive, it has to be top class in printing, the gloss, the layout design, the content among other things, and one can be easily distinguish the core of the business from the other rival. It is an undeniable fact to which you are going to present your business cards is more likely to remember you and your business.

Before you send your business card for printing, it is important and advisable to have the design of the business card ready, since money is involved in printing it is necessary to review all the aspects thoroughly before the card is produced negligent mistake either with the content or design would affect the business and the image in the market. All business cards are coated from both the sides, only the facia of the card where the printing is done has to be gloss or matt finish, it’s an individual choice, they also differ in thickness, coating whether glossy or semi-gloss or entire matt finish, the thickness of the business card varies from 18 microns to 25 microns, the other aspect not to be neglected is the quality of the ink, it has to be of good quality and should not spread during monsoon or with the frequent touch while exchanging, since business cards are both tear able and non-tear able.

Last but not the least, the content, since business card are supposed to be the mirror of the organization, much importance should be given to the content. The content of the business card should be simple, attractive and understandable, it is important to have your name, job, title, company name, address, contact numbers, website information, company logo etc,all these factors has to be properly scrutinized the content of the business card.
Some printing companies offer printing business cards on a recycled paper, if one is eco friendly or has much concern of the environment this is the option though it may cost you, but helps the environment indirectly. The size of the business card in Canada or for that matter all over the world is 3.5 to 2 inches standard. Business card is the most effective tool for business marketing.

Troubles of repeated Termites invasion

When it comes to pest control, we will have to be sure that the pest that we are above to get rid of is absolutely moved out from the house, garage any commercial building. We must have heard that a lot of families must have shifted their homes just because of repeated pest invasions in spite of the fact that they must have tried several times to get rid of pest with the help of pest examiners as well as pest control treatments. You must have noticed that a lot of families struggling by repeated termite invasions and suffer as they destroy wood and paper to a great extent without showing any sign of their existence. Getting rid of termites is a little tougher process as they are very small to be noticed and even harder to find out their dwelling place and eggs to destroy them completely.

Thought these are very small pests, termites are capable of causing severe damages to the properties so, getting rid of Termites is very important to avoid the damage. If you allow Termites to live longer in your property then it is sure that they will not go away until they destroy your property fully. They will destroy all costly wooden articles, furniture, doors, windows and even beams of your beautiful house and make them fall out and hallow with no strength anymore. You will have to know a little about the pest and its behaviors if you want to get rid of termites from your property completely. The worst thing about Termites is that they are attracted to wood. Wood is something that you can not avoid using and this make destroying termites or getting rid of termites fully form your property a hard process.

There are only a few methods by with we could control termite invasion. In fact a lot of ideas that work for other pests will not do any good in case of Termites so it is important that we follow strong methods to get rid of termites. Firstly you might have to call for a pet examination or exanimate by yourself the dwelling place of the termites so that you can start your mission for that place. You can observe that a dark moist place where wood or paper is store area the dwelling places of these termites. Remember that a professional pest controller can stop the invasion immediately when compared to your home remedies.

Than getting rid of termites, it is very important that you take necessary steps to avoid them reentering your property. The first thing that you will have to do to avoid attracting termites in your home is by avoiding the usage of mulch in and around the places near your property. Use orange based cleaners to clean the places that were infested before and on the baseboards. Repairing the previously infested area and painting them with two to three coats of paint or varnish can help termites from attacking them again.

Avoid troubles of frequent pests attack by using pest exterminator

More than often people have been hearing that a lot of families obliged to transfer their homes only because of frequent pest attacks. Even though they definitely have made an effort a number of times to get relieve from pest by the help of pest control treatments as well as pest exterminator. Many times you would have seen and observed that a lot of people are under pressure through frequent pest attack and they suffer from these termites as they wreck wood as well as paper up to a vast level. The major thing about these pests that they are not visible and you cannot find them because they will not show any indication of their survival.

It not easy task to get rid of these pests because they are very petite to be observed, hence it is quite tougher procedure as well as harder to search out their place of abode along with their eggs to wipe out them entirely. Despite the fact that these all insects’ are extremely minute termites and pests but they are much more capable of causing serious damages to the material goods.

Therefore to get rid of these termites is extremely essential to stay away from the any harm and by using pest control or pest exterminator you can take care of your property. If you do not take these pests seriously and permit them to survive for long time in your property then you should be ready to face all the damages because they will not leave your property until they destroy it completely. Therefore pest exterminator is very essential to find out these hidden pests and destroy them completely. If you will not make use of any pest control or pest exterminator then definitely they will wipe out all of your expensive wooden items such as doors, furniture, windows and more. They will not even leave the beam of your attractive home and pests will make the beam drop out as well as make holy without having any strength in it.

In order to use the pest exterminator when you would like to get rid of pests from your property entirely then you must know something about the pest as well as their behaviors. These termites are attracted toward wood and this is the most horrible thing about them. Most of the people make use of wood because it is like something that they cannot keep away from to make use of it. Hence it is a hard process to getting rid of termites or destroying termites completely form your property. Only a number of techniques are there by which you can control pest attack. First and foremost thing that you should do is to call  for a pet examination which is optional because  you can examine by yourself the place of abode of the termites, therefore  you will be able to initiate your operation for that particular place by using good quality pest exterminator.

Look More Beautiful Through Eyelash Extensions

When someone looks at a woman’s face, more repeatedly than not the main thing he or she observes are her eyes. The eyes are the windows to the heart, as they say and they are the brightest and the most gorgeous features in a female’s face. That is why the eyes are given much attention.

If your eyes look tired you will look less attractive than you really are. Mascara can help make your eyes look bigger and brighter. However, mascara can give your eyelashes a gloppy look. Mascara also does not last all day. You constantly have to run to the bathroom to check on your makeup. Do not miss out on your life because you need to always worry about how you look in the mirror.

One way to get noticed without constantly worrying about how you look is by scheduling eyelash extensions. Unlike cosmetics, an eyelash extension lasts for a long time. No need to worry about your makeup. When you have eyelash extensions done, they can last for up to three months without any worry on your part. Your eyelash extensions stylist will tell you how to make your new lashes last. Certain types of products can wear out the special eyelash adhesive your salon professional uses. This might your eyelash extension fall out.

Eyelash extensions are great for your prom. When you want to do something special, eyelash extensions are an easy way to do something new without doing anything too different. Consider getting a eyelash extension instead of getting a tattoo. Lots of people regret spontaneous decisions. No one ever regrets getting attractive eyelash extensions. You can look your best for your big day without regretting a huge style change. You can look dressed up.

Sometimes when you are in a relationship, things can get a little boring. Getting eyelash extensions is a good way to spice up your relationship that is not so dramatic that lover will not enjoy it. Your love will love your smoky eyelashes. He won’t be able to take his eyes off of your extensions. Also, getting a eyelash extension can be a huge boost for your self-esteem. You will feel more attractive. Because eyelash extensions are not like mascara you will not have to leave your friends to check how you look. Relax without distractions. Getting a eyelash extension is a great deal. Look into this fantastic treatment.

Steps to Higher Search Engine Positioning in Kelowna

Kelowna is a city  situated on Okanagan lake in British Columbia.  Kelowna ranks as the 22nd largest metropolitan area in Canada. It is widely accepted that Kelowna is the Okanagan’s most picturesque city with all its mountains, water, lush orchards and rolling vineyards. Kelowna’s climate offers the perfect balance of long hot summers and pleasant winters.  If you happen to visit Kelowna for business or pleasure, you will never have the heart to leave the city.

There are a few well-established website optimization companies in Kelowna who can assist you in getting a high rank for your web site in the major search engines such as Google, Yahoo, AOL and MSN. As you are aware, the best cost effective method of increasing your Internet related business is to have your Web Site optimized for top rankings in the major Search Engine Directories. If potential customers can not find your Web Site when they search for your products and services, you obviously have no chance of turning them into your customers. Search Engine Optimization (SEO) can be defined as an effort at improving the number and/or quality of visitors directed to a web site via the search engines.

If your site is not attracting the attention it merits from search engines, then understand it is a common problem widely faced by many and it can be remedied with Search Engine Optimization. Some of the most common complaints include -  potential customers not finding your website,  competitors rank higher than you for searches relating to your products, your site has been submitted to search engines but it is not listed,  your site receives very little or no traffic from search engines. What you obviously need is Search Engine Optimization services from a reputed Company.

For instance, Navigator Multimedia Inc. in Kelowna had the experience and expertise to assist you in Search Engine Optimization. For well over eight years Navigator Multimedia Inc. has been providing Search Engine Optimization services to clients from Kelowna, BC, Canada, to the US and few other areas including Vernon, Penticton, Kamloops and Salmon Arm. We also serve clients in other areas in British Columbia, including Vancouver, the Kootenay Rockies, and the Columbia Valley. . Navigator Multimedia Inc. claims that you can expect positive results over a short period of time. Navigator Multimedia, a Kelowna based web design company is professionally geared to achieve the highest quality standards for your web site through the use of professional web design, and well-planned search engine optimization.

Quest Quality Solutions, with headquarters in Kelowna, BC, specialize in providing professional and ethical Search Engine Optimization services to clients in Canada, the United States and around the world. They follow a scientific approach by first making an in-depth study about the clients’ credentials, line and size of business and their competition.

Best Internet Consulting, another Kelowna-based Company has been helping individuals and businesses worldwide with their Web Site Optimization and Search Engine Registration for well over a decade. They have the up to date knowledge and experience to get your Web Site in the top positions when visitors are looking for your products or services. They follow a scientific approach by first making an in-depth study about the clients’ credentials, line and size of business and their competition.